Wednesday, April 16, 2014
The job must have some sort of health benefits too. Fresh air, exercise etc.
As I was working I was thinking about what it takes to raise up a kid, thinking about how to learn to be confident. I didn't get my confidence until a lot later in life, when I actually had the guts to strike out and learn some things on my own. To fight for my rights, to work for what I wanted in life.
I realized that you have to let a kid be successful. You can't nit-pic everything they do and show them what they did wrong. You have to tell them what they are doing right. There is definitely a time and place for correction and showing them their errors, but that should be overshadowed by telling them what they are doing right, what you like about them, that you are proud of them.
I caved in to the family this winter and we got Netflix. It was a cold long winter so, I caved. And they ganged up on me.
Catch your kids, (and peers, co workers, spouse etc for that matter) doing something good and praise them for it. Make a habit of it and I guarantee that one day, they will turn around and return the favor. There is no feeling like my 9yr old telling me that he is proud of me for something!!
Posted by Stephen at 6:27 AM